Here’s a piece relating to the research that says people have barely enough good friends to keep them afloat in times of trouble…
Ã‚Â The column talks about how hard it is to break into Pittsburgh society.Ã‚Â And they’re not talking the country club/junior league crowd.Ã‚Â Making friends in Pittsburgh (outside of those in college) is hard–from trailor parks to Heinz Hall, you better come with a thick skin and sense of humor.
My mother’s from the west coast and has lived here 37 years–she still complains about how hard it is to be accepted.Ã‚Â A woman who lives near me and is from New York, sears me with spittle everytime she talks about people in Pittsburgh having too much family and way too many life-long friends to make living here enjoyable for an outsider.
Yikes.Ã‚Â They’re kind of right.
It’s true, for every holiday, I’m swimming in family invitations for this get-together or that.Ã‚Â There are no lonely neighbors here.Ã‚Â Unless you’re neighbor is from Chicago.
On the other hand, I fly in the face of the research Sally Kalson references about having two friends to confide in.Ã‚Â I have at least 10, yes that’s right,Ã‚Â 10 people I could call admist this breakdown or that.Ã‚Â Depending on the nature of the breakdown, you’ll get a call or not.Ã‚Â Interestingly,Ã‚Â over half of those people live in otherÃ‚Â states.Ã‚Â Ã‚Â
I don’t know, I’m notÃ‚Â pessimistic about friendships, I guess.Ã‚Â With technology, are you ever that far from a friend?Ã‚Â Ã‚Â I don’t think so.Ã‚Â Or, perhaps I’m drowning in crazy denial.Ã‚Â Ã‚Â I guess someday, I’ll see.
Ã‚Â How about you–where are your friends?